Have you ever yearned for a connection that goes a bit deeper? Do you find the world of internet dating a little cold? Tired of the failure of those old systems to provide a space in which authentic and meaningful exchange thrive? Then Naked Dating may be for you.
I spent my Sunday yesterday sampling the experience of our new friend and colleague, Jan Day’s, ‘Meetings without Masks’ – ‘Naked Dating’ event. And whilst I was expecting good things from Jan’s event, based on my intuition and sense that she had a little more expertise than the usual, she still managed to over-deliver. It’s also left me even more excited about the possibility of working with her through Whole Life Whole World.
The basic ‘layout’ of the day is that you take a group of men and women in equal numbers, 24 in our case, 12 of each, of around I’d say perhaps 30 – 60 years of age, all single, and looking for something a bit more than the superficial. Then the day itself is a very creative and varied mix of exercises which get the individual and collective human essences going, and allow the various personalities to connect as they wish…
“The surroundings of the venue were beautiful, too, with great food and a spacious and comfortable reception room in addition to the relaxed and easy gathering hall itself. So the location itself was also first class.”
The challenge I have now is that I want to describe it all to you to give you a feel of it’s energy and intrigue, whilst at the same time I don’t want to spoil it all for you if you want to go along to one of them yourself.
I should say also, that the notion of ‘Naked Dating’ is a metaphor, not a literal. We all kept our clothes on throughout the day.
The underlying principle, though, is that in life we all go around with ‘masks’ on, projecting a persona of ourselves that is designed by our psyche to keep us safe, emotionally and psychologically speaking, but at the same time the barrier or shield that it projects keeps us from reaching out or ever really connecting with others.
In short, like the walls of a castle, what keeps the scary out, also keeps the good out, and facilitators such as Jan are well schooled in the art of unlocking this ‘Catch-22′ situation – very creatively, and most importantly for a lot of people, safely.
“By the lunch-time break I was describing it as ‘Speed Dating with Brains’.”
We all experienced a feast of positive connections and self and life-affirming reminders of our true natures during the course of the day. By my best senses, everyone had a thoroughly fulfilling time and were glad they had gone. There were a lot of beaming smiles, and clearly a lot of people who got something quite unique and original from the day.
By six o’clock we were communicating and conversing as a group of people, almost with the consciousness of a team of ten years of knowing each other, who you would never have guessed were all strangers at the start of the day – all credit to Jan for the ability to lead us to manifesting that less limited expression.
People who started uncertain, and slightly tentatively, soon came a bit more out of themselves, and showed their uniqueness. And as is often the case, there’s almost a sense of sadness at the end of such a day that the connection of the group has to come to an end.
And as for the question, ‘did anyone make any romantic partnerships?’, well, that’s not for me to know.
You may say, ‘well why don’t you do a ‘warts ‘n all’ review of the event?’, and actually I am… There were no downsides or negatives to report. No errors made and no faults to be found.
If you’re single and looking for a more meaningful connection, the answer to the question, “would I recommend you to attend a Meetings without Masks day”, is an unequivocal ‘Yes’.
You can find out more about Jan Day’s ‘Meetings without Masks’ via the information and links provided below.
There will / may also be more information and further audio telephone testimonials and interviews from some of the participants who volunteered to share their thoughts on the day with others.
Best wishes, and thanks to Jan and everyone who participated in the day for a thoroughly warm and enriching communion.
We’ll keep you informed and updated on this page, and through our newsletter, about any new projects, connections or web areas that we develop with Jan.